Hi all...
execuse me if this thread is too long for u, but this is my broken heart talkin.. also, English isnt my =F3riginal language.. so mind my poor grammer and typos Emotion: smile
right now ,i'm writing this thread and feeing soo sad, i never felt this way, exept in goodbyes,u know how it feels... it's been 1 day,since i returned the kitten.. and i'm still feeling empty and lonely without my kitten. it's soo painful to be that hesitant about whether i get the kitten back or leave her..im thinking of this matter all day long, i even dreamt about it..

it's not like that common situation where some body owns a cat for 10 yrs, then suddenly it dies.. no. i got this kitten (persian-2 months-female). for only 4 days.now i'm grieving her absence.

the idea of having a cat in my head was just curiousity..i wasn't too serious about it.. i wanted to know how it's like to live with a cat.. now that i got it, and then returned it..I feel so empty and guilty.. the reason i feel guilty right now, cos i'm thinking that the poor kitten has adapted with me and my place, and maybe she was happy with me.. then the day i decided to return it back (i wasn't completelty satisfied about leaving the kitten) but there was some things that forced me (now i see them as redeculas) like it kept urinating on the carpet.. i put a box filled with sand and i put her in it, she kept messing the carpet until the last day, then she used the litter box twice..

that was good, so this problem was solved.. now my mother she kept saying the cat is dirty u cannot let her bounce over ur bed.. (some times she slept with me) also my mother wouldn't like the sight of her bouncing over the expensive sofas and kitchen table.

inside of me i also wanted to get rid of her (only because i had thoughts that the kitten might get hurt in my house) cos i'm not living in a small apartment, i live in a big house.. so i think she will get lost.. plus i think i will get exhausted of thinking that the kitten might get hurt (it's like an obsesion) i'm afraid since we have stairs, it might fall from that hight).
I thought that the sooner i leave her, the easier it would be, so i wouldn't be so attached to her.i was wrong, i don't know how i got soo attached to this kitten that it made me weep for hours, i really miss her...
please help me, i really feel guilty of leaving the little kitten..(she will be with a friend, then she will sell it since i didn't want her) but i'm really having second thoughts...
i'm asking you to correct me if i'm thinking wrong:

-do you think that the kitten got used to me and adapted to me and my place and now she's wondering where am i ? by living with me for only 4 days? are cats in general get attached with people that they get sad or miss their owners?
-i will be out of town soon, so do u think that even if i didn't return the cat,, and then when i come back.. the cat will not be remembering me? or will she still recognise me?
-does this kitten get hurt easily? like could she jump from hights? or does she know that she will get hurt if she jumps from hights?

-if i wash her every 3 days, will she still be not that clean to get in my bed or on the couche?
-can i prevent her from getting on the kitchen table or on other spots i don't want her to be? will she do it by simply telling her not to? and then learn not to jump over that couche for example?

-i feel like she's sudden attacking things.. like she makes sudden moves that she scares me sometimes, is that her just playing?

-sometimes she gets like restless, she runs every where, then suddenly stops, then runs again (in an unnatural way) is that her searching a place to urinate? i did put her in the litter box when i see her acts this way. then she does it on the carpet.
-the most thing i'm afraid of is that some of my family memebers might slam the door while she tries to get in that room, then... bam! i soo don't want this to happen, is this accedint possible to happen?

now, i want to get her back. but those things i think about, make me hesitate so much.. please i need your reply asap! Emotion: smile thank you soo much in advance
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Where was the cat returned to??? Maybe you can visit?? Kittens can be trained to anything and will keep the mice/rats etc down especially if the mother was a good hunter. Don't feel guilty instead make a decision. If the place you got her from is a cattery make a donation, then her upkeep will be covered. Cats like all animals are tough really so as long as she goes to a good home she will be okay. You can also adopt animals and get pics and letters sometimes. Most zoos do this.
Don't feel bad.
Dave McMahon
Hi all...
execuse me if this thread is too long for u, but this is my broken heart talkin.. also, English isnt my óriginal language.. so mind my poor grammer and typos Emotion: smile
right now ,i'm writing this thread and feeing soo sad, i never felt this way, exept in goodbyes,u know how it feels... it's been 1 day,since i returned the kitten.. and i'm still feeling empty and lonely without my kitten. it's soo painful to be that hesitant about whether i get the kitten back or leave her..im thinking of this matter all day long, i even dreamt about it..

it's not like that common situation where some body owns a cat for 10 yrs, then suddenly it dies.. no. i got this kitten (persian-2 months-female). for only 4 days.now i'm grieving her absence.

the idea of having a cat in my head was just curiousity..i wasn't too serious about it.. i wanted to know how it's like to live with a cat.. now that i got it, and then returned it..I feel so empty and guilty.. the reason i feel guilty right now, cos i'm thinking that the poor kitten has adapted with me and my place, and maybe she was happy with me.. then the day i decided to return it back (i wasn't completelty satisfied about leaving the kitten) but there was some things that forced me (now i see them as redeculas) like it kept urinating on the carpet.. i put a box filled with sand and i put her in it, she kept messing the carpet until the last day, then she used the litter box twice..

that was good, so this problem was solved.. now my mother she kept saying the cat is dirty u cannot let her bounce over ur bed.. (some times she slept with me) also my mother wouldn't like the sight of her bouncing over the expensive sofas and kitchen table.

inside of me i also wanted to get rid of her (only because i had thoughts that the kitten might get hurt in my house) cos i'm not living in a small apartment, i live in a big house.. so i think she will get lost.. plus i think i will get exhausted of thinking that the kitten might get hurt (it's like an obsesion) i'm afraid since we have stairs, it might fall from that hight).
I thought that the sooner i leave her, the easier it would be, so i wouldn't be so attached to her.i was wrong, i don't know how i got soo attached to this kitten that it made me weep for hours, i really miss her...
please help me, i really feel guilty of leaving the little kitten..(she will be with a friend, then she will sell it since i didn't want her) but i'm really having second thoughts...
i'm asking you to correct me if i'm thinking wrong:

-do you think that the kitten got used to me and adapted to me and my place and now she's wondering where am i ? by living with me for only 4 days? are cats in general get attached with people that they get sad or miss their owners?
-i will be out of town soon, so do u think that even if i didn't return the cat,, and then when i come back.. the cat will not be remembering me? or will she still recognise me?
-does this kitten get hurt easily? like could she jump from hights? or does she know that she will get hurt if she jumps from hights?

-if i wash her every 3 days, will she still be not that clean to get in my bed or on the couche?
-can i prevent her from getting on the kitchen table or on other spots i don't want her to be? will she do it by simply telling her not to? and then learn not to jump over that couche for example?

-i feel like she's sudden attacking things.. like she makes sudden moves that she scares me sometimes, is that her just playing?

-sometimes she gets like restless, she runs every where, then suddenly stops, then runs again (in an unnatural way) is that her searching a place to urinate? i did put her in the litter box when i see her acts this way. then she does it on the carpet.
-the most thing i'm afraid of is that some of my family memebers might slam the door while she tries to get in that room, then... bam! i soo don't want this to happen, is this accedint possible to happen?

now, i want to get her back. but those things i think about, make me hesitate so much.. please i need your reply asap! Emotion: smile thank you soo much in advance
Where was the cat returned to???

a friend of mine has a new mom cat. the cat gave birth to 5 kittens maybe, she offered to sell me a kitten, so the kitten is originally hers, but she doesn't need any more cats cos she already has one. she's gonna sell the kitten i returned.
i'm just worried that if i get the kitten back, my house wouldn't be so save..or she would get hurt. and if i just leave her, she will miss me... does cats miss people they been with for 4 days? i asked if a kitten gets hurt easily..
/snip/
the idea of having a cat in my head was just curiousity..i wasn't too serious about it.. i wanted to know how it's like to live with a cat..

I think that was very wise of you. It sounds like you're thinking a lot about this and you would probably be a very good cat owner.
now that i got it, and then returned it.. I feel so empty and guilty.. the reason i feel guilty right now, cos i'm thinking that the poor kitten has adapted with me and my place,

You could phone your friend and ask if the kitten seems sad. More likely the kitten is happy to be back with her litter mates and her mother.

/snip/
now my mother she kept saying the cat is dirty u cannot let her bounce over ur bed.. (some times she slept with me) also my mother wouldn't like the sight of her bouncing over the expensive sofas and kitchen table.

That is the only problem that sounds serious to me: your mother's attitude. A kitten will want to bounce over everything. It could be kept off the table but probably not off the sofas or bed.
inside of me i also wanted to get rid of her (only because i had thoughts that the kitten might ... i'm not living in a small apartment, i live in a big house.. so i think she will get lost..

Not likely. If she gets lost, she will cry and you will find her, and she won't get lost a second time, she will learn her way around. The bigger the house the better, she will have room for exercise and won't get bored. If your mother wants to shut her out of some rooms, she can play in other rooms.
plus i think i will get exhausted of thinking that the kitten might get hurt (it's like an obsesion) i'm afraid since we have stairs, it might fall from that hight).

Not likely to be a danger, unless perhaps the floor is very slick. You might hang some cloth or netting over the banisters so she couldn't fall through.
I thought that the sooner i leave her, the easier it would be, so i wouldn't be so attached to ... of leaving the little kitten..(she will be with a friend, then she will sell it since i didn't want her)

You might talk to your friend about that. What about saying you will pay for the kitten if the friend keeps it as long as it wants to stay with the friend? Maybe you and your mother could visit it there, and later as it calms down your mother would change her mind.
but i'm really having second thoughts... i'm asking you to correct me if i'm thinking wrong: -do you think that ... for only 4 days? are cats in general get attached with people that they get sad or miss their owners?

Probably not in just four days, if it is now back with it's littermates and its mother.
-i will be out of town soon, so do u think that even if i didn't return the cat,, and then when i come back.. the cat will not be remembering me? or will she still recognise me?

How long will you be out of town? Probably it's better for the kitten to stay with its mother while you're gone than to stay with your mother.

/snip/
-if i wash her every 3 days, will she still be not that clean to get in my bed or on the couche?

That might be a problem, but it may be your mother's imagination. If the house is clean, how would the cat get dirty? If you wash the kitten it might catch cold. Cats and kittens usually don't need washing, they keep themselves clean. If she is too young to keep herself clean, she should be back with her own mother.
-can i prevent her from getting on the kitchen table or on other spots i don't want her to be? will she do it by simply telling her not to?

Yes, she can be taught about tables.
and then learn not to jump over that couche for example?

I'm not sure about that. Cats do love couches.
-i feel like she's sudden attacking things.. like she makes sudden moves that she scares me sometimes, is that her just playing?

That's normal.
-sometimes she gets like restless, she runs every where, then suddenly stops, then runs again (in an unnatural way) is ... put her in the litter box when i see her acts this way. then she does it on the carpet.

Not sure what you mean here. Running first one way and another is playing for kittens. Better have a vet check her.
-the most thing i'm afraid of is that some of my family memebers might slam the door while she tries to get in that room, then... bam! i soo don't want this to happen, is this accedint possible to happen?

It doesn't often happen if people understand cats. What about having your friend or someone else who knows cats visit your home with the kitten and watch how your family acts and see if they are treating her right.

Anyway if you are leaving town, you might wait till you get back before deciding anything. Maybe your mother will get lonesome for the kitten too.
Good luck,
Margaret
Where was the cat returned to???

a friend of mine has a new mom cat. the cat gave birth to 5 kittens maybe, she offered to ... miss me... does cats miss people they been with for 4 days? i asked if a kitten gets hurt easily..

Go back and get that cat and learn about how to
train them not to pee outside the box, and other things. Of course the kitten misses you. They have feelings like everyone else. Your post tells me that you want to do the right thing. Go get her and do some reading about how to live happily with her. She could be the light of your life one day. Maybe your Mom's too.
Hi all...
now my
mother she kept saying the cat is dirty u cannot let her bounce over ur bed.. (some times she slept with me) also my mother wouldn't like the sight of her bouncing over the expensive sofas and kitchen table.
P.S. Educate your mother. Cats are very clean. Kittens, like other babies, need a little bit of training. You were doing that. Good for you! (And when can you move out on your own?)
Thanks Mary, and Margaret for your very satisfying answer! Emotion: smile

i will be out of town for 9 days... so will she be forgetting about me if i'm gone that long?
how about if the kitten saw the door open and wanted to get out side the house? there are many street cats in my neighborhood.. will it take long to prevent the kitten from jumping over some spots? i rememebr when i took her and put her in the cage, she couldn't stop saying meos... hmm was that crying? then when i opened the cage in the friend's apartment.. she got out and ran around... rediscovering the place i think.. then i got out without saying goodbyes to the kitten... i just want the kitten to be happy.. some times i just tell my self, that's it! i'll get it back.. then 20 seconds later i think maybe it's better without her.. and so on
i know i have a problem in not being able to decide at all..
Thanks Mary, and Margaret for your very satisfying answer! Emotion: smile i will be out of town for 9 days... so will she be forgetting about me if i'm gone that long?

Maybe, but it's better for her to be with her mother cat and littermates till you are home and ready to spend time with her. For her to spend 9 days without you OR her old cat-family would not be good.

/snip/
i rememebr when i took her and put her in the cage, she couldn't stop saying meos... hmm was that crying?

It's normal not to like being in a cage.
then when i opened the cage in the friend's apartment.. she got out and ran around... rediscovering the place i think.. then i got out without saying goodbyes to the kitten... i just want the kitten to be happy..

She's certainly happy with her own cat-family now. When you get back you can decide.
Margaret
Thanks Mary, and Margaret for your very satisfying answer! Emotion: smile i will be out of town for 9 days... so will she be forgetting about me if i'm gone that long?

No, but what is the purpose of this question?
how about if the kitten saw the door open and wanted to get out side the house? there are many street cats in my neighborhood..

You have to keep the door closed and keep her in.
will it take long to prevent the kitten from jumping over some spots? i rememebr when i took her and ... better without her.. and so on i know i have a problem in not being able to decide at all..

You do. Learn to take the leap and commit to something. It will do you good. However, if you cannot commit to this kitten for life, then leave it along.
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