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I have also heard of a couple of instances where dogs who had previously been very friendly whacked out and they had high levels of Lyme diseasewhen tested.

So have I. Considering that according to what I've heard - from humans who've had it - Lymes can cause the muscles to ache all over, sharp pains in the joints, AND fatigue, it's not at all surprising that it could make someone who had it cranky, snappy, and/or leery of being touched... regardless of species.
It's too bad that people can't see when a dog changes behavior that there is more than likely something physically wrong with him. Not that getting him to a specialist sooner would have made much of a result in the outcome especially when it comes to brain tumors but it would have saved the dog all that suffering.
Celeste
Unfortunately, my friend called me again, just a few hours ago, and gave me the bad news. The dog has ... ball"), several additional tumors on his liver and bone cancer. They suspect that the dog is suffering "immeasurable pain."

I'd say it's a tribute to his temperament that he held out as long as he did, poor thing. Hopefully his owners will be able to remember him as he was, not as his illness made him.
It's too bad that people can't see when a dog changes behavior that there is more than likely something physically wrong with him.

Especially at the age of 6.
Not that getting him to a specialist sooner would have made much of a result in the outcome especially when it comes to brain tumors but it would have saved the dog all that suffering.

Yep. Realizing that his dog has been induring pain for probably quite some time is what's still eating away at my friend.
Of course, if it didn't, he probably wouldn't be my friend.
Unfortunately, my friend called me again, just a few hours ... cancer. They suspect that the dog is suffering "immeasurable pain."

I'd say it's a tribute to his temperament that he held out as long as he did, poor thing. Hopefully his owners will be able to remember him as he was, not as his illness made him.

They will.
As soon as they stop blaming themselves for what happened.

Handsome Jack Morrison
*gently remove the detonator to send me e-mail
It's hard not to blame yourself. I know when Brandy got sick so suddenly I felt awful when I finally found out that she had a brain tumor and more than likely had it for a couple of years. In her case it wasn't causing any pain that was indicated but minor behavior changes that we thought were from age were a direct result of the tumor. I felt so bad because I knew Barney had cancer and I gave him so much extra attention and didn't give her as much. I never dreamed that in less than 2 months time after loosing Barney to cancer that I would loose Brandy. I still think if I had only known.

Celeste
It's hard not to blame yourself. I know when Brandy got sick so suddenly I felt awful when I finally ... months time after loosing Barney to cancer that I would loose Brandy. I still think if I had only known.

Dear Celeste,
There's a razor's edge between "I wish" and "I should have."

"I wish" is human, and speaks of your caring and decency. We all wish, and hope, because we cared and loved.
This "I should have" and "if I had only known" thing to me means that you're beating yourself up over an impossibility. Well, dang it, if you HAD known, you'd have done differently. Naturally, of course. Because you cared.

This kinda "false guilt" or whatever it is, is so destructive when you are grieving. Please try not to hurt yourself with that. It sux enough that we do the best we can and it (whatever "it" is) doesn't always work out right. It sux enough that we outlive our dogs.
"If-only if-only if-only." Believing that it is your fault, that you could have influenced some outcome. Telling yourself a lie that implies you somehow could have known. OF COURSE if you had known, you would have acted differently. Realistically, you couldn't have known. None of us will ever be omniscient enough to predict and control the fates of those around us, or even ourselves, 100%. We may wish we could know it all, always. But we cannot and that is not a "failure."
You've got nothin' to feel guilty over, kiddo. Hugs to you.

flick 100785
It's hard not to blame yourself. I know when Brandy ... loose Brandy. I still think if I had only known.

Dear Celeste, There's a razor's edge between "I wish" and "I should have." "I wish" is human, and speaks of ... But we cannot and that is not a "failure." You've got nothin' to feel guilty over, kiddo. Hugs to you.

Amen! Doctors miss things like that and they are trained in what to look for, for heaven's sake. Unless you have a crystal ball and you just don't bother to check it for the latest info, don't beat yourself up. I can't think of a single dog I have known that liked to see its loved ones sad or in pain. I doubt Brandy would want any pain added to what is already necessitated by her loss.

Paula
"Anyway, other people are weird, but sometimes they have candy, so it's best to try to get along with them." Joe Bay
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