Hi, All..
We have a new cat in our home, she adopted us. She apparently was abandoned nearby, and she just showed up on our doorstep.

Problem is, our original cat will not accept the new kitty into the household. He fights with her at every opportunity, so we keep them separated at all times..(one cat in, the other out, and vice-versa.)

Original cat is neutered male, adopted and bottle-fed by us when he was an orphaned feral infant. He is bonded closely to my wife and me, but always shys away from other people.
New stray cat is 5 to 7 years old, spayed and healthy, very sweet people-loving kitty, very accepting of strangers.
Are we forever going to have these conflicts going on, or is there a way to get our original cat to lighten up and accept the new kitty?

We're hoping someone here can offer some constructive advice!

Thanks,
Mark
Hi, All.. We have a new cat in our home, she adopted us. She apparently was abandoned nearby, and she ... cat to lighten up and accept the new kitty? We're hoping someone here can offer some constructive advice! Thanks, Mark[/nq]Generally, these problems sort themselves out with time. Keep putting the two together, and shout at them when they fight and/or hiss at one another..Pretty soon they will learn to at least tolerate one another. We have had this problem with each new cat we got, and now we have 5 of them. The newest one took a year before she was accepted into the group. It helps if there is some outside the group threat that they can fight, or be frightened by together..We have wild raccoons that we feed, and the cats refuse to allow the raccoons into the house, so they guard the cat doors at night for this purpose, and they take turns doing this.

The two who had the most trouble accepting one another were sharing the same inside hall one night during a thunderstorm..Threats like this tend to draw them together.
Hi, All.. We have a new cat in our home, ... hoping someone here can offer some constructive advice! Thanks, Mark

Generally, these problems sort themselves out with time. Keep putting the two together, and shout at them when they fight ... one another were sharing the same inside hall one night during a thunderstorm..Threats like this tend to draw them together.

**Your cats have quite a responsibility and trust to keep those raccoons out of the house.
I'm sure the cats know it is great to have such a qualified job.

**My two cats' only responsibility seems to be to go into all the nooks and crannies "dead" areas of the house, sit down there, and liven things up, if that makes any sense.
Bill Graham rote:
Generally, these problems sort themselves out with time. Keep putting the two together, and shout at them when they fight and/or hiss at one another.

That is terrible advice. Keep the new cat in a room by herself for a week at least. Then put a baby gate at the door so the two can see each other - this for another week. Then try letting them get together.
MIKE
Hi, All.. We have a new cat in our home, she adopted us. =A0She apparently was abandoned nearby, and she ... cat to lighten up and accept the new kitty? We're hoping someone here can offer some constructive advice! Thanks, Mark

They may not ever be best friends, but they'll learn to tolerate each other,
if they're introduced properly and slowly. (I'm sure others have already
given you lots of info. about that)
My advice would be to target Resident Cat with a lot of extra attention, while
he's getting used to the idea of an interloper. Sometimes even neutered cats
can get all territorial and start showing their displeasure by peeing/ pooping
inappropriately. Some neutered males even start spraying. I think it's awesome that you took in the stray. The best cats I ever had were
strays. It's almost like they're..grateful or something.

Sherry
Bill Graham rote:
Generally, these problems sort themselves out with time. Keep putting the two together, and shout at them when they fight and/or hiss at one another.

That is terrible advice. Keep the new cat in a room by herself for a week at least. Then put a baby gate at the door so the two can see each other - this for another week. Then try letting them get together.

MIKE
No, THAT is terrible advice..The first step in training any animal (or human) is to let them know what you want them to do. If they don't know that, then there is no hope of them ever doing what you want.
Hi, All.. We have a new cat in our home, she adopted us. She apparently was abandoned nearby, and she ... cat to lighten up and accept the new kitty? We're hoping someone here can offer some constructive advice! Thanks, Mark

They may not ever be best friends, but they'll learn to tolerate each other,
if they're introduced properly and slowly. (I'm sure others have already
given you lots of info. about that)
My advice would be to target Resident Cat with a lot of extra attention, while
he's getting used to the idea of an interloper. Sometimes even neutered cats
can get all territorial and start showing their displeasure by peeing/ pooping
inappropriately. Some neutered males even start spraying. I think it's awesome that you took in the stray. The best cats I ever had were
strays. It's almost like they're..grateful or something.

Sherry
I agree..The best cats are the strays that you take in and save from a miserable life eating garbage and living in the cold. Smokey, our feral cat, and B-K, our Burger King parking lot cat, are the most appreciative cats we have. B-K really learned how to get along with people in that parking lot. Today, he is known by everyone on our block, and goes in all their houses.