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Yes, we have kids, and yes, it was a pretty ... But the pets are all my idea and my responsibility.

I've always been a light sleeper and normally couldn't return to sleep after being woken at 2am (it was always ... when he started a pattern seizing in the middle of the night. Your husband will learn to deal with it.

Said like man who doesn't know my hubby. It's true that he learned to sleep right through the kids crying ("I never heard it!" yeah, right!), but it's the only thing. He lived in apartments for..at least 8 years after college he moved into his house at almost 30 but never got used to car doors closing in the parking lot. And it appears to me that the more something annoys him, the less likely he is to sleep through it. I think if I try to force him to "deal with it," he'll end up with a life long resentment of Lexi. He's never forgiven Cassie for "destroying the yard" (read: making a path through his new grass) when we moved to this house more than 5 years ago. And the grass has long since filled in.
He's a good man, really. And the fact that I have 2 dogs and a cat despite how he feels about animals
will attest to that. But I do need to do everything I can to ensure that he personally isn't inconvenienced too much.
Use the alarm if you're forced to keep your puppy out of the bedroom. Otherwise, you shouldn't need it.

Okay I think I'll set the alarm for 3am tonight, and keep my ears open for shuffling sounds.
Wouldn't paying attention to him, and even putting my fingers through the crate be reinforcing the behavior?

Relaxing him with your presence isn't reinforcing the behaviour, it's bonding, and you're missing a critical part of it by segregating him at this stage.

I know sigh. And I hope he'll sleep on the bed with us (my side of course - lol) eventually. Though I know there are strong feelings on both sides of that issue as well. I said in another post that I may move him to my son's room for the duration. As it's darker and more "out of the way" than our room, he sleeps better there anyway.

Bizby
Well, that would be the easiest solution.

Not if he has trouble sleeping, it wouldn't.
On the nipping thing, I'm talking about very, very gently and very, very briefly holding the puppy's muzzle and saying ... closer to something you could call "punishment," but I think thatto describe it as such is to grossly exaggerate it.

Nope. In a discussion of dog training, to describe it as "punishment" is 100% accurate.
yeah. The first NS GSD I knew was a lovely dog. That was years ago though. The next one same couple got? Many screws loose and at a high cost to boot.

The one I know went blind in one eye at 3 from an inherited disorder.
But I do need to do everything I can to ensure that he personally isn't inconvenienced too much.

Man I am SO glad I'm single. No offense meant at all, obviously this is something you don't mind dealing with, but that sort of personality would make me nuts.
Excellent point. NEVER let a puppy out of its crate when it is whining to get out.

Sorry, but I think this is Really Bad Advice - and a prescription for not only having the puppy eliminate in the crate, but for poor communication later on.
There's a HUGE difference between giving in to a puppy temper tantrum, and ignoring normal communication.
Take him to that new movie, "Must Love Dogs". Afterwards, ... duration. Maybe he'll experience a change of heart?

lol Well, I've broached the subject of him sleeping in my son's room for the duration. Son would have ... drift back off to sleep. But as I said, DH has long standing sleep problems. Conditions have to be perfect.

I sympathize with that. Not getting enough sleep really destroys me for the next day. I hate it more than almost anything.
And I'm sure he'd allow conjugal visits. ;-)

Laugh!
I like what Jack has to say about the fact that most dogs, absent rigorous obedience training and perfect conditions, turn out just fine. Your adorable new addition (and i've seen the pics, my god, what a cutie) will likely be physically able and clever enough to figure out the whole house bad, grass good, thing very quickly. Accidents are par for the course now and you shouldn't feel like you've 'messed up'.
My dog sleeps with me in my bed and once in a while at around four in the morning, I'll be awakened by a gentle paw on the cheek. Which means, usually, I fell asleep before our 11pm walk. Emotion: smile She hasn't had an accident in the house in about 18 months (she's two)
Jean
He's a good man, really. And the fact that I have 2 dogs and a cat despite how he feels about animals
will attest to that. But I do need to do everything I can to ensure that he personally isn't inconvenienced too much.
Okay I think I'll set the alarm for 3am tonight, and keep my ears open for shuffling sounds. <<
And the alarm going off at 3am isn' t going to disturb him?!

Beth
He's a good man, really. And the fact that I have 2 dogs and a cat despite how he feels ... my ears open for shuffling sounds. << And the alarm going off at 3am isn' t going to disturb him?![/nq]
Not if he's in my son's room. But he's been okay
with the "Lexi alarm" going off in the middle of the night anyway it's the whining after I put him back in his crate that is the problem.
Bizby
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