How can a husband and a wife be so different when it comes to pets?

I love all my pets, but my herps hold a special place in my heart. My wife on the other hand would love to see all of my herps gone, but she tolerates them because I'm the best thing that ever happened in her life. Yeah, I know, it's a lie, but it sounds good when I say it!!!

But how can two people be so different when it comes to pets but love each other more than life itself?
Anyone else out there in a relationship like mine or am I the one in a million?
After all, we are beating the odds. We've been married 20.5 years now!
Jim Smith
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How can a husband and a wife be so different when it comes to pets? I love all my pets, ... the one in a million? After all, we are beating the odds. We've been married 20.5 years now! Jim Smith

I'm in the same boat. wife puts up with my snakes. like the Leopard Gecko, Inverts forget about it, doesn't even want people to know we have them. Oh well, She knew the job was dangerous when she took it. she doesn't mind the corns. the boa was here before my wife was. she's got seniority.
How can a husband and a wife be so different when it comes to pets? etc..

Jim,
In a way my wife and I are similar. Although she enjoys the reptiles, she has a MAJOR phobia when it comes to my tarantulas and scorpions.

I don't really think it is a magic formual, but moreso a certain quality called "maturity" and "respect".
~Wade
In a way my wife and I are similar. Although she enjoys the reptiles, she has a MAJOR phobia when it comes to my tarantulas and scorpions. I don't really think it is a magic formual, but moreso a certain quality called "maturity" and "respect".

Spot on Wade! Maturity and respect are two key things that are crucial to any relationship, especially the husband and wife rendezvous, but even just friends as well.There is one rule when it comes to relationships involving animal keepers, if your fiance wants you to get rid of the animals because they are "unorthodox" or for some other frivolous reason then that person obviously does not really respect you, and they are usually immature as well since they tend to think the whole world revolves around them - it's like "my way or the highway" so to speak. It's best to ditch these types as they usually want to dominate in other areas as well - especially when it comes to finances and of course the bedroom.

Believe me, I've experienced one of those immature and disrespectfuls, she pretty much persuaded me to sell my herps and then she eventually turned out to be a total jerk and her mother had done a bit of brainwashing too which really soured whatever we had remaining between us - so that was it, over and done with.

So, the girl is gone, the baby is gone, and the relationship is mucho finishito.
In a way my wife and I are similar. Although ... formual, but moreso a certain quality called "maturity" and "respect".

Spot on Wade! Maturity and respect are two key things that are crucial to any relationship, especially the husband and ... it, over and done with. So, the girl is gone, the baby is gone, and the relationship is mucho finishito.

I would counter that if the person is your fiance, the "animal" issue should've been solved long before the engagement.
Having said that, the reason I got started in amateur herpetology was because of my ex-wife (in the mid to late 80's). She had a Ball Python and I thought it was kinda cool. Over the next year I'd stupidly (I wasn't experienced enough) acquired another 6 snakes two of which were a Retic and a Burm and when we found out we were expecting our daughter, she said the animals had to go. I had no problem with that. It was the responsible thing to do.
In terms of someone not liking "unorthodox" pets, well...some like jazz, some like metal. Some like Japanese econoboxes, some like American iron. Some like reptiles, some like cats or dogs. When it comes to reptiles however, IMHO there's a perceived sense on the part of most individuals that it's an unusual pet. Maybe unusual pets attract unusual pet owners...? ;-)

Robert J. Salvi, Ambiance Acoustics
http://www.ambianceacoustics.com
San Diego, CA USA
(858) 485-7514
In a way my wife and I are similar. Although ... formual, but moreso a certain quality called "maturity" and "respect".

Spot on Wade! Maturity and respect are two key things that are crucial to any relationship, especially the husband and ... it, over and done with. So, the girl is gone, the baby is gone, and the relationship is mucho finishito.[/nq]While the girlfriend maybe history doesn't a father owe the child both emotional as well as financial support? My husband & I met in 1980. We married in 1987. I guess we are also beating the odds. While maturity is a given for a successful relationship respect must be earned by both partners. I'm the one who has the interest in reptiles & arachnids. However my husband does share my interest in animals. He helps to care for our 7 dogs, our blue & gold macaw as well as being curator of lagomorphs & rodents.

He also helps out with the reptiles when needed. Moving & caring for giant snakes requires extra hands. Hubby doesn't like the arachnids, roaches nor other insects but never complains about my household residents. He didn't even complain when I accidently released some roaches in our house & he found a 4 inch hisser in our bed;^) I raised my son for several years on my own. However when my husband came into my life he also entered my son's life & was in every way his dad.

While my husband isn't our son's biological father he has been in every sense of the words a father & a dad to the boy. Real men are fathers & dads while some biological fathers are true dead beats & neither father nor dad. My husband has earned my respect! snake lady
Anyone else out there in a relationship like mine or am I the one in a million?

My husband comes from a military family; his model of "pet" is more "guinea pig" or "hermit crab" than anything else. Y'know, portable and largely inert.
After the establishment of our current little family (which contains cats, fish, and the python at the moment) and the discussion of additions to same (parrot and sliders), he said two things.

One: "No frogs."
Two: "When did I start living in the zoo?"
- Darkhawk, wasn't wanting frogs before he said that . . .

Darkhawk - H. A. Nicoll - http://aelfhame.net/~darkhawk / They are one person, they are two alone
They are three together, they are for each other
- "Helplessly Hoping", Crosby, Stills, Nash, and Young
So, the girl is gone, the baby is gone, and the relationship is mucho finishito.

While the girlfriend maybe history doesn't a father owe the child both emotional as well as financial support?

That depends on whether or not the father is allowed access to the child by the mother or not
In the UK there is a group called Fathers 4 Justice. They're a group of fathers who want the law changed to stop mothers denying visitation rights to fathers.
They can take things a bit far though. One father, dressed in a batman suit, scaled a wall in Buckingham Palace and ended up on the Queen's balcony. Was there for a few hours. Very, very stupid thing for him to do in this current climate. Lucky for him he wasn't shot
Anyone else out there in a relationship like mine or am I the one in a million?

My husband comes from a military family; his model of "pet" is more "guinea pig" or "hermit crab" than anything else. Y'know, portable and largely inert.

I've found my reptiles fit that description as well a lot easier to transport than a dog or a daughter (no need for frequent rest stops, don't get hungry as often, etc). My turtles have been to probably a dozen states over the course of the past ten years.

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