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LOL..Only a true dog lover can state this.. one advantage of a black dog: it's easier to see their hairs ... about fur in everything no matter how hard you clean then my place isn't where you want to be. Celeste

With two goldens, there are always little drifts of blond undercoat floating about. Even minutes after vacuuming. But at least you can see it and pick it up. Those short little black lab hairs weave themselves into everything..not to discourage you or anything!
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But hey, even with the peeing problem, it's nice to have a dog around again.

Congratulations! Don't forget we need peectures!

Catherine
& Zoe the cockerchow
& Queenie the black gold retriever
& Rosalie the calico
Holy cow! I sure hope you like sweeping & vacuuming. A huge & hairy black dog, especially a Lab, is no fun to live with if you want a tidy house.

However they can be more fun than a barrel of monkeys!

Catherine
& Zoe the cockerchow
& Queenie the black gold retriever
& Rosalie the calico
I have had a really strange reaction to losing Diva. I have walled myself off emotionally from the other dogs ... stay closed off and dead inside forever, but I sure can't seem to be anything but for the time being.

I'm sorry you're feeling so badly but you're right, it won't last forever, it's just very raw right now. It is heartbreaking to lose a dear pet, and some are even more heartbreaking than others. It sounds like you're in self-protective mode, and that's very natural (as I'm sure you know). I really don't think you'll get "stuck" there.

Catherine
& Zoe the cockerchow
& Queenie the black gold retriever
& Rosalie the calico
I have had a really strange reaction to losing Diva. I have walled myself off emotionally from the other dogs ... stay closed off and dead inside forever, but I sure can't seem to be anything but for the time being.

To take your job for a second, I'd say that your reaction to Diva's death provides a good role model for your daughters. Our dogs aren't easily replaced.

Matt. Rocky's a Dog.
I am having a hard time with it, though. I have had a really strange reaction to losing Diva. I ... stay closed off and dead inside forever, but I sure can't seem to be anything but for the time being.

It's nice hearing from you again, Paula. I've missed you.

And I know exactly* what you're talking about. I've found out from experience that for me I need to wait at least 3 years after losing a dog before getting another. I got K.C. three years after my second OES died. And it was exactly 3 years and 3 days after I lost K.C. when I got Utah. And frankly, one of the reasons (maybe the main reason) that I got Utah is that although Patience is doing wonderfully, she *is going on 12 now, and I didn't want to take a chance of ending up dogless for three years, and I knew that that's what would happen if I lost her suddenly.
So I suspect that you, like me, have some sort of built-in grieving interval before you're ready to bond with another dog. I don't think that's something that can be rushed. Heck, I still end up crying half the time when I talk about K.C. or Chloe, but the dead-inside feeling that you're talking about did eventually go away. So give yourself time. I do empathize with where you're at emotionally right now.
Dianne
LOL..Only a true dog lover can state this.. one advantage ... then my place isn't where you want to be. Celeste

With two goldens, there are always little drifts of blond undercoat floating about. Even minutes after vacuuming. But at least you can see it and pick it up. Those short little black lab hairs weave themselves into everything..not to discourage you or anything!

Well, we have a yellow lab, and we get both drifts of pale blond undercoat and stiff hairs that weave into everything. And you can't see the hair in the butter!
FurPaw - a true dog lover

"Here we go round the prickly pear
At five o'clock in the morning."
- T. S. Eliot
To reply, unleash the dog
He sounds like a lovely boy. This is one of the reasons why picking a phrase I use "Go potty" and ... gets them to hurry up about it when it's 5 below or raining torrents. Are you familiar with that technique?

That's what we've been doing (the phrase David's used with all of his/our dogs is "go outside") but he doesn't seem to get it yet.

It doesn't help that he pees when he gets excited...this morning a neighbor started to talk to him in the elevator and David said "No! Don't talk to him yet!" so she waited until they were on the front steps going out and then said "What a sweet Buddy!" and the building maintenance guy had to wash the steps off.

Kevin Michael Vail > a billion stars go spinning through the night, (Email Removed) > blazing high above your head. . . . . . . . . . > But in you is the presence that . . . . . . . . > will be, when all the stars are dead. . . . . . . . . . > (Rainer Maria Rilke)
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