Hi all, I posted here a while back concerning my boy TB. Well, he los his battle with Liver/Biliary disease and Kidney failure on the 29th o August. I had to let him go...that morning I knew it was time becaus he couldn't even stand up to drink. It has been awful, truly the wors time of my life. He was like my son, my best friend for 15 and 1/ years, and now he's gone. I have very slowly gotten better, as t where I don't cry every day, but I still cannot look at his pictures.Last week, I found a post on a database at work for 5 free kitten being given away the end of September. Well, even though I swore would not get another cat so soon, I went and looked at them today. told the lady that I was interested in two of them and she would hol them for me until I decided. They are 6 weeks old and I would lik them to stay with the mother until they are 8 weeks before I pick on or two.

I don't know though, I feel guilty, I just got TB's ashes bac Thursday and cried up a storm. I still miss him dearly, and I KNOW tha no other cat is going to compare to TB. I can only hope that if choose a kitten it will grow up to be half the cat TB was. What do yo guys think? Do you think I'm going about this the wrong way? Am getting one too soon? I'm torn.
-Nat

NateB323
Sorry for your loss. 8-( Only you will know when you're ready. If you're having doubts, maybe you're not quite there, but like you said, it'll be a couple of weeks until you get them.When I lost my himmy Pandora to CRF, no way was I getting another cat. After about 4 months I found myself wanting to see kittens. I found a real cutie in a local pet store and told the store clerk at the back I'd take her. By the time I got to the front of the store I couldn't do it... told them I changed my mind. I was so overcome with guilt and sadness that I couldn't get out of there soon enough.

A couple of weeks later I was closer to being ready. I saw little calico "Brio". Went to see her a couple of times then waited a week just to be sure... had made up my mind that if she was still there it was meant to be. She was... and I brought her home with me. That was 2 years ago... and I can't imagine life without her.
...TB...lost his battle with Liver/Biliary disease and Kidney failure on > the 29th of August. ... ...free kittens being given ... guys think? Do you think I'm going about this the wrong way? Am I getting one too soon? I'm torn.

TB would want you to be happy, and a new kitty is one way to do that. I found it helpful that the successor looked completely different. The fun part was: I had been accustomed to a geriatric cat (almost 21 years old, by the calendar, not cat years) and the new baby was bouncy, responsive, playful, could hear and see very well in comparison.

If you think it might be too soon, it may well be. Perhaps take some time visiting cats at shelters and pet stores before committing.

HTH
Karen D.
. They are 6 weeks old and I would like
them to stay with the mother until they are 8 weeks before I pick one or two. I don't know ... guys think? Do you think I'm going about this the wrong way? Am I getting one too soon? I'm torn.

Nate
We were in much the same position when our beloved Isis went to the Bridge. A few days later a friend at work happened to mention her semi-feral feline had had a litter and we realised we needed cats as our home felt so completely empty.
But what we did find helped was we were in the same position you are in now, we had to wait a few weeks until they were ready to leave their mum.
Anyway we'd never even seen the kittens as the woman who had their mum lived a long way away and we had our doubts but they were going to be sent to a pet shop if she couldn't find them homes..

They are Redunzel and Sarrasine. We love them very much. They are NOT Isis or her sister Fugazi and they're not replacements for them. They are their own selves and we don't feel it's disrespectful to the memory of Isis and Fugazi or Speedy Joe to have them. In fact it's the other way round, if we didn't have more cats it would have felt like we were saying they'd put us off having cats, which of course they didn't

Just my two cents
Lesley
Slave of the Fabulous Furballs
. They are 6 weeks old and I would like
them to stay with the mother until they are 8 weeks before I pick one or two. I don't know ... guys think? Do you think I'm going about this the wrong way? Am I getting one too soon? I'm torn.

Nate
We were in much the same position when our beloved Isis went to the Bridge. A few days later a friend at work happened to mention her semi-feral feline had had a litter and we realised we needed cats as our home felt so completely empty.
But what we did find helped was we were in the same position you are in now, we had to wait a few weeks until they were ready to leave their mum.
Anyway we'd never even seen the kittens as the woman who had their mum lived a long way away and we had our doubts but they were going to be sent to a pet shop if she couldn't find them homes..

They are Redunzel and Sarrasine. We love them very much. They are NOT Isis or her sister Fugazi and they're not replacements for them. They are their own selves and we don't feel it's disrespectful to the memory of Isis and Fugazi or Speedy Joe to have them. In fact it's the other way round, if we didn't have more cats it would have felt like we were saying they'd put us off having cats, which of course they didn't

Just my two cents
Lesley
Slave of the Fabulous Furballs
I am so sorry for your loss. I know what it is to lose an animal friend.
You will never replace TB. He was unique and he will always have a special place in your heart.I don't think that it is being disloyal to him to want another animal friend so soon. It is an honor to his memory .Tb gave you so much happiness, of course you hope to have that again in your life. You want to fill that void in your life and you want to give another cat a happy home. Follow your heart. Only you know where that will lead you. My Grady cat was with me for 15 years. When he died I wanted another cat immediately.

A very different kind of cat though. He left such a huge a hole in my life I had to fill it. A friend of a friend gave me a cat that needed a home. She has been with me for several years now and I adore her. I still miss Grady. He still has his own place in my heart but I am so grateful for the companionship and love of my new cat. When you love an animal it grows more and more love and makes room for more animals to love.