Common practice, I'm led to understand, is for a deceased pet to be cremated and the ashes returned to the owner. I suppose there's some closure in distributing a pet's mortal bits over an emotive landmark, or in collecting a life's worth of companions to inter them with their human (or mix/scatter the lot).
The practice doesn't appeal to me, though. I have memento galore of the critters' presence in my life, a ceremonial urn is just one more thing to gather dust, and physical landmarks can become distant, rarely visited, or altered beyond recognition.
My vet does a nice "pawprint" token; the pet's pawprint in clay.

Most of what I have of Sam, I carry in my head. He wasn't a place, or a handful of dust, or a bit of clay and I don't need any of those things to put myself in mind of him.
What sorts of memorials comfort you? Why?
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What sorts of memorials comfort you? Why?

I like to spread ashes on a wooded hillside on the opposite side of the creek from my house. I can see it from my office window and it's a beautiful spot.
I like the idea of flagstones. The dog/cat/whatever isn't actually there, but it's a nice memorial that works with the landscape.

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What sorts of memorials comfort you? Why?

For me, it is the pictures I have. The ones where my old dog is doing something silly. Like sitting on his dog-house like snoopy, or when he was a puppy and he fell asleep on top of the boardgame that we were playing.

It comforts me because I was given Spunky when I was about 10 years old (20 years ago). Since then, my memory has fuzzied a bit, and the memories don't come back as quickly. Looking at the pictures helps form the association and more memories flood back.
Marcel
Common practice, I'm led to understand, is for a deceased pet to be cremated and the ashes returned to the ... don't need any of those things to put myself in mind of him. What sorts of memorials comfort you? Why?

Trees. Why because they are life and to me they become a symbol of the life that once was. Trees are strong, they are magnificent, I always embrace another tree. But then I guess you can tell I am a bit of a "tree hugger". The trees I prefer for a memorial are blooming such as the Red Bud Tree we planted for our beloved Murphy. That of course is all in preference. One may prefer a strong oak tree or a Magnolia etc.
Gwen
What sorts of memorials comfort you? Why?

pandora and the dogs will be cremated. i want to keep them and have their ashes scattered with mine. (dunno about rory-cat, since he's on and off my *** list on a nearly hourly basis.)
as for other tangible mementos, i've just got photos. i haven't been big on keeping toys or collars or that sort of stuff.

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i want to keep them and have their ashes scattered with mine.

I really want to do the same thing. Unfortunately I didn't think of that with Murphy I was too in shock at the time.

Still I would have planted a tree in his honor.
I though Pandora was buried next or near to Polka dottie Kitty?

Gwen
Common practice, I'm led to understand, is for a deceased pet to be cremated and the ashes returned to the owner.

Murphy was cremated and I have the ashes in a little tacky wooden box. I had some idea that the box would have a hinged lid and that I could look in once in a while. It's nailed shut, though.
I suppose there's some closure in distributing a pet's mortal bits over an emotive landmark, or in collecting a life's worth of companions to inter them with their human (or mix/scatter the lot).

Scattering ashes is not all that it's cracked up to be. I was scattering our old family pet, Tor the Norwegian Elkhound, when an errant gust of wind blew bits'o'Tor into my mouth.

Seriously, closure with good old Murphy came from having her put down at home and letting Rocky and Friday do their goodbyes (or lack thereof).

Matt. Rocky's a Dog.
as for other tangible mementos, i've just got photos. i haven't been big on keeping toys or collars or that sort of stuff.

Do you (generic "you") re-use collars?
Here I thought I was being very practical about things, but I couldn't put Sam's collar on another dog. Or Noah's, which I still have. Part of that is because they each wore their collar for years and years and I'm not sure the hardware would hold. And they look like they've been worn for years and years.
But part of me says that every dog should have his very own collar. Not that it matters to the dog! (I didn't really feel like Duke was mine until I bought him a new collar.)
Leashes, or training collars, or toys, sure. Mixed and matched those among the dogs all the time. But not the dog's everyday buckle collar.
Here I thought I was being very practical about things, but I couldn't put Sam's collar on another dog. Or Noah's, which I still have.

Murphy's collar is still hanging by the back door where I keep the other collars while the dogs are inside.

Matt. Rocky's a Dog.
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