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I give the first and new cat equal time and attention so neither feels neglected.
I give the first and new cat equal time and attention so neither feels neglected.

Then it sounds like you're doing what you need to do. Just give them some time to work out their own pecking order, and maybe think about trying the Rescue Remedy drops
(http://www.drsfostersmith.com/product/prod display.cfm?pcatid=3550&Ntt=rescue%20remedy&Ntk=All&Ntx=mode+matchallpartial&Np=1&N=0&Nty=1) in the water.
The cats in my life have all been happier when they've had company.
I give the first and new cat equal time and attention so neither feels neglected.

Then it sounds like you're doing what you need to do. Just give them some time to work out their ... little kitten for a companion for my 1 yo. adult cat, it took them over 6 months to become friends.

After that, they were always together: playing, wrestling, tearing around the house, sleeping together, etc.
I'm sure glad I didn't give up after a week or two! Those two cats shared about 15 years together. Both their lives were enriched by each other's companionship.
Give them time; if necessary, LOTS of time. Don't give up.

Just give each cat their own space, separate littler boxes, food and water, and give them some supervised time together every day.
Kittens are more accepting of change than adult cats, and Bette is probably not so adaptable to the new living situations as a kitten might be. Based on my vet's advice, I got a kitten rather than an adult cat as a companion for my older cat. The older cat did a lot of hissing at first, but after a few months, they were pals. Bette probably will settle down after a month or so. At first, she will probably ignore Belle, then gradually will warm up to her.
(Dan and Nancy Mahoney (Email Removed))
(Sat, 01 Jan 2005 19:22:38 -0800)
We took in a stray (after shots, etc) and Trouble (the mistress of the > house) took to using lots ... use. It's Belle's house. She doesn't want a friend. Take the cat back. That's bad advice. Very, very bad advice.

Your opinion, and you're entitled to it, naturally.

My experience says otherwise.
Give it time. It took Cleo and Amelia a couple months to adjust to Tabitha and Sammy, and they're great buddys now.
The timeframe is really dependent upon how severe the consequences are at the moment. In our case, the consequences were untenable from Day One and did not improve, nor were they likely to do so in the future.

Bryan S. Slick, usenet at slick-family dot net
"You either do or you don't believe, that it can or can't be done. An ounce of faith and a touch of grace, and it can happen.. to anyone."

(Lonestar, "From There To Here")
(jacquie0 (jacquie0 ))
(Sat, 01 Jan 2005 23:36:24 -0800)
worried that you don't love
them as much any more.
Assigning human emotions to animals incapable of them doesn't help the situation any.

Bryan S. Slick, usenet at slick-family dot net
"You either do or you don't believe, that it can or can't be done. An ounce of faith and a touch of grace, and it can happen.. to anyone."

(Lonestar, "From There To Here")
(nospam@nospam (Email Removed))
(Mon, 03 Jan 2005 02:20:18 GMT)
It is not Belle that is the problem. She has tried on several occasions to approach Bette (the new cat) only to be hissed at by Bette. Belle is very laid back and is very friendly. Belle wants a friend - she doesn't mind the other cat. It's the other cat that is posturing.
Ah, that's different then.. the similarity in the names threw me off.

Well, if it's the newbie with the problem, sit her down and ask her if she'd rather go back to the shelter.. heh.
Seriously, though.. as long as they're not gouging each other's eyes out or festooning your home with urine and ***, I'd let them sort it out. Things would be different if it was the original cat with the problem.

Bryan S. Slick, usenet at slick-family dot net
"You either do or you don't believe, that it can or can't be done. An ounce of faith and a touch of grace, and it can happen.. to anyone."

(Lonestar, "From There To Here")
I brought in a cat that refuses to get along with the one I already have. Not the most pleasant situation but I would NEVER take it back to the shelter. Perhaps I'm just an old softie but I would never do that. Pat
"Bryan S. Slick" (Email Removed) schrieb im Newsbeitrag

I agree, as long as the cats don't actually get hurt, there's hope. Our Micky is in the position that he had to 1st get used to a dog - it took one week,
2nd to a bitchy female - it took one month, 3rd to a playful kitten - it took 2 weeks.
Just give them time, but don't expect that they will ever groom each other, if they do, then it's a real extra gift!
Carola
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