Two weeks ago I brought home another cat (DMS 2 year old female named Bette) to be a companion to my DMS 2 year female Belle. Belle is also 17 lbs and much larger than the petite Bette Belle is laid back and ready to make friends. . Bette however keeps hissing at her. Neither have attacked each other. I have separated them most of the time in two separate rooms - mainly because Bette is getting over the cat flu (taking Antibiotics). The door has a gap under it where Belle plays pawsy. I have let Bette come out occasionally now that she is better. Both mostly just look at each other when Bette is not hissing at Belle when she trys to approach her.

How long will it take for them to quit this behavior? One reason we got a another cat so Belle would have a friend to play with. If this cat doesn't become friends with Belle soon, my husband want to take her back to the SPCA where whe got Bette. Any comments or suggestions?
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How long will it take for them to quit this behavior? One reason we got a another cat so Belle ... Belle soon, my husband want to take her back to the SPCA where whe got Bette. Any comments or suggestions?

1st suggestion: give it time. It is possible for it to take a couple months, sometimes much longer.
2nd: buy a bottle of Rescue Remedy and put a few drops in their water bowls. That worked wonders towards reducing the tension level in my house when I've added cats.
3rd: buy some Feliway diffusers. These also can work wonders.
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How long will it take for them to quit this behavior? One reason we got a another cat so Belle would have a friend to play with. If this cat doesn't become friends with Belle soon, my husband want to take her back to the SPCA where whe got Bette. Any comments or suggestions?

Yes, count yourself lucky.
We took in a stray (after shots, etc) and Trouble (the mistress of the house) took to using lots of places as her bathroom that were never intended for such use.
It's Belle's house. She doesn't want a friend. Take the cat back.

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We took in a stray (after shots, etc) and Trouble (the mistress of the house) took to using lots of places as her bathroom that were never intended for such use. It's Belle's house. She doesn't want a friend. Take the cat back.

That's bad advice. Very, very bad advice.
Give it time. It took Cleo and Amelia a couple months to adjust to Tabitha and Sammy, and they're great buddys now.
Don't rush it. After a couple months you will have a better idea whether Belle wants a friend.
Dan
We took in a stray (after shots, etc) and Trouble ... house. She doesn't want a friend. Take the cat back.

That's bad advice. Very, very bad advice. Give it time. It took Cleo and Amelia a couple months to adjust ... now. Don't rush it. After a couple months you will have a better idea whether Belle wants a friend. Dan

I agree with Dan, it could take a couple of months or a couple of weeks. Don't let this discourage you. Cats are very territorial by nature, and having "competition" around makes them behave in the way that you have described. Once they realize that the "new kitty in the house" is not a threat, they will settle down and actually welcome them. Another thing to remember is..DO NOT forget to give the first cat as much attention as you give the new cat. If you give the new cat all of the attention, then the first cat will feel threatened and worried that you don't love them as much any more.
I think you're expecting WAY too much from these two cats. Give them AT LEAST six weeks to get to know each other. The hissing will eventually subside, just let it run its course. Just because you have two cats of the same age and sex does not automatically mean they will "bond" and become best friends.
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Like everyone else is saying, it takes more time and patience. Tell your husband to relax.
Dave
The door has a gap under it where Belle plays pawsy.

That's a very good sign. Usually the established cat is the one who's upset about the newcomer.
It took my old fat Kitto several months to fully accept the newbie Blanche, but it's been worth it. The little kitty entices the old one to play, chase her, and talk. Many's the time I'm drifting off to sleep and hear the gentle patter of thundering kitty hooves on the hardwood floor. And this afternoon they were curled up on the couch with their rumps touching!
Another coulple things to try get them both playing with opposite ends of a long piece of rope or strip of fabric. Make a paper bag kitty fort with a peephole in the bottom. And feed them simultaneously out of a double-wide dish.
They'll work it out, don't give up!
HTH
Karen M.
It is not Belle that is the problem. She has tried on several occasions to approach Bette (the new cat) only to be hissed at by Bette. Belle is very laid back and is very friendly. Belle wants a friend - she doesn't mind the other cat. It's the other cat that is posturing.
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