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Can we not use the word kill when it comes to euthanizing? I am sorry to hear about your cat going but sometimes it is a hard thing to go through. I would talk to your feline and ask him if he is deciding to check out and leave this plane of existance. I believe animals like people choose the time in their lifetime that they wish to leave especially when it comes to a long healthy life. I would actualloy take some of the people's advice who say "enjoy the time you have left." It is not cruel because the animal too wants to spend their last days with their loving humans.

As for putting the animal to sleep, I think doing it at home with their loving humans around is the best way to go. The problem here is your cat seems to want to hold on for a while longer. I would seriously talk with your feline (no joke) and tell them that if they wish to leave this earth that you will be ok. Tell Nic that you love him and will miss him. I think then you'll know that he has chosen this as his time.

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Most of you won't know me. I haven't posted here for probably over a year...my computer suffered a fatal crash ... who love Nic...but no one has ever loved him as intensely and hard as I did. As I do. Sethran
Can we not use the word kill when it comes to euthanizing?

I was upset. And euthanasia IS killing, if we like it or not. Nic has always been my responsibility. Everyone who knew me here probably got damn and sick and tired of that word, I'm sure. I refuse to let go of that responsibility now. I was responsible for his life...for his food, his medical trips, his happiness, his keeping. And I am responsible for his death. It was a good death, yes, and better than the one he would have had if we waited. But he's still dead and I'm still the one who decided to kill him.
Death isn't a bad word. Nic was dying since the day he was born. He's certainly been dying for the last seven years. Everything we do is just a delay of death. I think Scrubs said it best...something about how death is the one game we all play and everyone loses in the end. Killing isn't a bad word or action either. I can't take full responsibility for Nic if I refuse to acknowledge what I really did today. Beyond all the *** and questioning and tears...I decided today would be the day he died. And that's not a horrible thing. You can window dress it for yourself and that's perfectly fine and I understand it. Just don't ask me to.
I killed my cat today. I killed him because I loved him. I killed him because he was the most important and absolute thing to me in the world. I killed him because part of the responsibility we have as cat owners is to make that choice when our friends are suffering. I killed him because I knew him...in a manner so deep and intimate it did transcend words.
But mostly I killed him because I loved him. If I didn't love him so much, this wouldn't hurt so bad. If I didn't love him so much, I wouldn't have done it.
I am sorry to
hear about your cat going but sometimes it is a hard thing to go through. I would talk to your ... have left." It is not cruel because the animal too wants to spend their last days with their loving humans.

I mean it is cruel because it isn't possible. Nic enjoyed his last few days and hours with us. I can't say we enjoyed the tears and heartbreak and horror. I wouldn't trade those last days for anything in the world, though. You don't have to enjoy something for it to be sacred.
As for putting the animal
to sleep, I think doing it at home with their loving humans around is the best way to go. The ... you love him and will miss him. I think then you'll know that he has chosen this as his time.

I did talk to him. I remembered the advice that I've told clients so many times when they faced this choice...you know your animal better than anyone. We sat together all night and I held him and rocked him and I knew. I knew he was tired. I knew he didn't feel well anymore. I knew walking hurt him. So you are right...I do fully believe we can talk to our pets. After all, Nic and I had a lifetime to learn each other's languages.
Sethran
I was upset. And euthanasia IS killing, if we like it or not. Nic has always been my responsibility. Everyone who knew me here probably got damn and sick and tired of that word, I'm sure. I refuse to let go of that responsibility now.

Excellent post, Sethran. I just wanted to share something with you that the vet said when we finally decided it was time to let Luke go, years ago. She kissed him and petted him and said, "It's a shame we can't do this for people." The selfish part of me missed him dreadfully and cried like a baby because he was gone. The other part knew he was in a better place and I'd done the right thing.
Sherry
Seth this was absolutely stunningly right.
Karen
Look dude.. I know PERSONALLY for a FACT that there are some things in life that are far worse than death. Ever see people jump from a flaming building? They do it not because they want to die but because staying there in the flames is worse. So don't feel bad for what you had to do. If I was your cat, when I saw you again on the next plane, I would thank you for your tender mercies. That's what you did, you know... You didn't 'kill'. You performed a tender mercy on the one who you love best.
IBen Getiner
I killed my cat today. I killed him because I loved him. I killed him because he was the most ... him so much, this wouldn't hurt so bad. If I didn't love him so much, I wouldn't have done it.

I held Nico in my arms as the vet injected the sedative and he went to sleep. It was the hardest thing I ever did in my life. I had him for
17 years. The other day I found a filed called NicoDies.txt that Imust have written and posted here. It ends in mid sentence:

Not really a surprise. I got home and he was still under the bed. I had gotten him some roast beast, his absolute favorite. He sniffed it and turned away. I carried him outside to lie in the yard one more time and then took him to the car. He got up and started meowing like mad so I took him back inside. I called his local vet and he said that I had to bring him in, at least to see what was going on.

This time he didn't complain when I put him in the car. He went down to the passenger seat floor and stayed there, leaving me a final brown liquid present on the rug. Nothing Nature's Miracle couldn't handle.

The vet turned back his ear and it was all yellow from jaundice. So his liver was no longer working and if I didn't kill him he would start having seizures and die anyway. So as I held him the doctor injected a tranquilizer and a few minutes later he was asleep. Then he injected the stuff that stopped Nico's little heart.

I have some pictures but
Can we not use the word kill when it comes to euthanizing?

I was upset. And euthanasia IS killing, if we like it or not. Nic has always been my responsibility. Everyone ... love himso much, this wouldn't hurt so bad. If I didn't love him so much, I wouldn't have done it.

I think you are an honorable person to fully accept the meaning of what you had to do in order to give your cat the ultimate kindness. My heart goes out to you.
{{{Sethran}}}
My thoughts are with you today. Hard as it was, you did the right thing. One thing my vet told me once has always helped. He said "Cats aren't afraid of death, but they are afraid of pain." It's we who fear death, not they. Nic is fine now, and now is the time for you to grieve and, in time, allow your heart to heal.

Blessings,
Ginger-lyn
Death is not the end. I believe only the body dies and that the being comes back in the next lifetime. I think OP's cat will stick around for a few days and then move on.

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Look dude.. I know PERSONALLY for a FACT that there are some things in life that are far worse than ... did, you know... You didn't 'kill'. You performed a tender mercy on the one who you love best. IBen Getiner
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