i just got an e-mail from a someone i used to work with. she asked me how elliott was doing (he was a wee baby puppy when she and i worked together). at the time, she had a Pointer x Dal who, not surprisingly, was super high octane. the dog was completely ignored, unexercised, and unhousebroken. she eventually got rid of the dog because it was too much of a pain in the ***. nice, eh?
so, she's married now and has a ~2yo son. they're thinking of getting a dog. i, cringing, asked "what kind?" any kind her son wants, was the answer. i think my brane explodiated at that point. i told her that she should carefully research what kind of dog to get, because it's important to make sure the dog will fit into their lifestyle. knowing her, i cautioned her to stay away from Labs, GRs, Boxers, etc. because they're high octane. i explained that they need training and daily exercise or she'll create behavioral problems. her response was "we have a big fenced yard, and the dog will stay outside all day." i told her why A) that isn't a substitute for exercise and B) why it could be dangerous for the dog. she said maybe she'd reconsider walking the dog.
i give up.

shelly (perfectly foul wench) and elliott and harriet http://home.bluemarble.net/~scouvrette
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i give up.

After all of my advice to my brother (who wanted a GSD X Lab because he likes both and wanted the best of both) including checking at the pound with behaviour foremost in mind, he went to a "breeder" and came home with a Lab X GSP.
Oh well, he's got the dog and while I'm ready to give up on my brother, I'm not going to give up on the dog. My brother means well and will probably give the dog a good home. I'm pretty sure that his new wife will rid him of his belief that dogs prefer to live outside (he used to live in northern Canada and had Nordic breeds). Whatever help I can give long-distance, I will.

Matt. Rocky's a Dog.
After all of my advice to my brother (who wanted a GSD X Lab because he likes both and wanted ... the pound with behaviour foremost in mind, he went to a "breeder" and came home with a Lab X GSP.

she e-mailed me before i left work and said that she and her husband really, really want a Boxer. i'm doing my damnedest to dissuade her, but i feel like i'm talking to a brick wall.

i've recently had four different people tell me they decided to get a Boxer after meeting harriet.(1) when i try to give them a realistic picture of what it's like to actually live* with her, the general response has been "but *you have a Boxer." yeah, and x, y, and z are what i have to do to make sure she doesn't turn my house and life inside-out. sometimes i wish to hell harriet weren't such an appealing dog. people fall in love with her and want a dog "just like" her. lordy. i never thought i'd be the owner of one of Those Dogs. i'm not enjoying the responsibility.
Oh well, he's got the dog and while I'm ready to give up on my brother, I'm not going to give up on the dog.

exactly. the friend in question, after telling me they want a Boxer, said that at least she's got a good resource for when she needs help: me. i don't want to beat her over the head too* much, because i *want her to feel like she can ask for help.
My brother means well and will probably give the dog a good home. I'm pretty sure that his new wife ... outside (he used to live in northern Canada and had Nordic breeds). Whatever help I can give long-distance, I will.

it sounds like it could actually turn into a pretty good thing!
(1) one of them is my landlady, who is trying to get one from her BYBing brother. that's just what i need, a daily reminder that someone is neglecting a Boxer. this dog will be a 24/7 outside dog. it gets *** cold in Indiana in the winter. i get sick every time i think about it. if they *do* get a Boxer, i may have to move, just to preserve my sanity. i know that train wrecks like that happen everywhere, but i don't think i want a front-row seat to one.

shelly (perfectly foul wench) and elliott and harriet http://home.bluemarble.net/~scouvrette
i don't want to beat her over the head too* much, because i *want her to feel like she can ask for help.Congratulations on your foresight and forbearance, Shelly. Far beyond me.

If you need an outlet, come watch our adoption committee (aka, the 'Vicious Bitches') in action. They ask penetrating questions, then patiently explain why someone can't have the dog they want ... or any dog. Some people are outraged and begin yelling. We all come running to watch the VBs in action.
Recently, one smiled sweetly and said, "We wouldn't adopt a goldfish to a fool like you."
Oh, another favorite: "We can't keep you from having children; we can keep you from having one of our dogs."
i've recently had four different people tell me they decided to get a Boxer after meeting harriet.(1) when i try ... like" her. lordy. i never thought i'd be the owner of one of Those Dogs. i'm not enjoying the responsibility.

I have that with Bodhi. He is a very friendly version of BSDs*. I have had many people ask me about the breed, and breeders in general. Aside from the "difficulties" of the breed, I encourage them to get out and meet WAY more dogs in the breed.
(*while he's not unusual in his friendliness amongst other BSD, I've seen many that were just as sweet as him. However, he could easily be considered "overly friendly" for a breed that is often described as "aloof".)
Shelly & The Boys
for a breed that is often described as "aloof".) Shelly & The Boys

Is that just description of Belgian Shepherds? I would never describe Clovis as aloof. Not even close. Territorial yes. Somewhat standoffish to strangers, but far
from aloof like my chow definitely was.
I am curious since I know there are similarities as well as differences in the two breeds.
Gwen
Congratulations on your foresight and forbearance, Shelly. Far beyond me.

i expect it may be beyond me, too. i have a hard time being patient with stupid people.
Recently, one smiled sweetly and said, "We wouldn't adopt a goldfish to a fool like you." Oh, another favorite: "We can't keep you from having children; we can keep you from having one of our dogs."

aren't they concerned that the people they're mean to will turn around and go to a BYB or a pet store? it seems to me as if that sort of response just feeds the cycle.

shelly (perfectly foul wench) and elliott and harriet http://home.bluemarble.net/~scouvrette
I have that with Bodhi. He is a very friendly version of BSDs*. I have had many people ask me ... from the "difficulties" of the breed, I encourage them to get out and meet WAY more dogs in the breed.

i do as well. whenever people act like they want to know more about harriet, or about Boxers in general, i paint them a life-sized picture of what it's like to live with her. that's the thing that i don't get. this person in particular knows what i've done, and what i continue to do, to make harriet a relatively "good" dog. the stupidity of it boggles my mind! i don't understand how someone can watch another person struggle to fix those problems, then discount the sort of work that is required to insure the never happen in the first place. i guess people like that got a double dose of the "it won't happen to me" gene.
(*while he's not unusual in his friendliness amongst other BSD, I've seen many that were just as sweet as him. However, he could easily be considered "overly friendly" for a breed that is often described as "aloof".)

heh. harriet is in many ways atypical of Boxers. she's not atypical enough that i feel like it's false advertising to use my experience with her as a cautionary tale, though.

shelly (perfectly foul wench) and elliott and harriet http://home.bluemarble.net/~scouvrette
Is that just description of Belgian Shepherds? I would never describe Clovis as aloof. Not even close. Territorial yes. Somewhat standoffish to strangers, but far from aloof like my chow definitely was.

i'm obviously not a Malinois person, but my understanding is that they should be aloof (standard states reserved) with strangers but not with their own family.

shelly (perfectly foul wench) and elliott and harriet http://home.bluemarble.net/~scouvrette
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