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Words are never enough...

It is never easy to cope with the loss of a pet, and words are often not enough to describe how the owners feel. Grief, devastation, deep sorrow, guilt, denial, anger and depression may haunt you for days and weeks. These feelings are absolutely normal, natural, and very individual. There is no quick remedy or fast solution to overcome this. The owners will need time, support and understanding. People who don't understand the pet-and-owner bond may not understand your pain. However, you are not alone: thousands of pet owners all over the world have gone through the same feelings. Try to avoid people who don't understand your grief, and seek communication with those who have gone through losing a pet too. When you've found yourself without the love, devotion, and companionship of your furry friend, talking about it with other pet parents, together with the thought you are not actually alone, can be comforting. If you don't feel like talking with anyone and want to grieve in solitude, listen to your heart and do so, but don't isolate yourself for too long. Sharing your feelings with those who understand has been a great help for many. Be honest about your feelings and accept them instead of running away from them... after all, you have the right to feel pain! When you accept your pain as an absolutely normal reaction of a caring person, you will find the strength to gradually let it go and to slowly move on... keeping in your heart and forever remembering the precious moments you were lucky to spend together.

Doing something positive during this time of sadness may help the grieving process. There are certain things you can do in memory of your pet that may help you go through the loss.

• Plant flowers or a tree in memory of your pet.
• Make a donation or volunteer at your local shelter.
• Order a funeral or memorial service.
• Create a memorial photo album or scrap book.

Should I get a new pet?

When or whether you should get another pet is a highly individual decision. Generally, people need time to work through their grief and loss before building a relationship with a new pet. If a new pet comes too soon, many owners, children in particular, may feel that loving a new pet is "disloyal" to and a "betrayal" of the previous pet. If you want to get a new pet immediately, please remember that every animal is unique, and do not cherish unrealistic expectations hoping the new pet will be "just like" your previous companion. Accept its own, new personality. Avoid the temptation to compare the new pet with the lost one. A new pet should be taken when you are ready to move forward and build a new relationship rather than looking backward and mourning your loss. Some people may find it is just impossible for them to have another pet. You need to listen to your heart and do what you think is right for you.